Thank you so much for engaging with the survey and sharing it so widely. Today we have 371 different experiences from all over Scotland, and your stories, views and suggestions of what should be done to ending the stigma around the menopause are precious.
We know it is a tough topic to be open about, and that many of you have had painful experiences with health professionals, managers and even family and friends. As many of you told us, it can be a confusing, tiring, frustrating and embarrassing process. We all need to understand it, not just women. We all need to learn about it at a younger age. We all need to be capable of discussing it without minimising it or taking it as a joke. We all need to involve and recognise the people that are struggling with it because many of them are doing so or have done so in silence.
This should not be happening. No woman should feel embarrassed or isolated because of the menopause. Whether it is "at the expected age" or not, natural or as a result of treatments, we cannot tolerate that the shared experiences of respondents are feeling dismissed, confused, feeling they are "going crazy" or being afraid. We have limits to what we can change or stop in biology and the course of life, but we can definitely help both those undergoing the menopause and those in their lives be more prepared and understanding when difficult times come.
Our survey respondents want more information on the menopause to be available to everyone. They think that everyone should know about the common and "not so common" symptoms of the menopause and their effects in body, mind, and soul. They also want access to more and better-prepared health professionals - ones that not only know about the menopause but that are willing to really listen and involve women in the decisions about their bodies. For that, they recognise that appointments should be longer or at specialist clinics.
Those respondents that are or were working provided useful guidelines to improve how menopause is treated in the workplace. Easy adjustments included having access to cold water, a fan or ventilation, a quiet space for breaks, sanitary products, and the cheapest, but more difficult one, empathy from colleagues and managers. They also think that managers need more information and preparation to discuss the topic and that menopause policies should be in place.
It was a long survey, so once again thank you for participating and answering all the questions. We are still working on processing and incorporating knowledge from your answers into our recommendations and future steps. The menopause should not be a negative transition. It has the potential to be a liberating and life-changing experience. But to get there we, as a society, have a lot of work to do, and we can only do it if we listen to the real voices of wisdom, our menopausal and postmenopausal women.
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